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Sunday, 24 September 2017

Fire is the Test of Gold

Our whole extended family has been in quiet turmoil since September 1st, when our nephew was struck by a car while crossing a street (in another province), sustaining life-threatening injuries. When they slid him into the back of the ambulance, Sandals was already in a coma. 

The entire case has recently been thoroughly reviewed by a different neurologist, who concurs with the primary care team that there is absolutely no reasonable expectation that this once vibrant 23 year old man will ever wake up. Yesterday in conference, the doctors told the parents the sad truth that Sandals has entered a vegetative state. There is a DNR in place. 

The medical recommendation is that (when his body is sufficiently stable) this precious child should be transferred to Winnipeg where he can be closer to  home. At that time, the doctors recommend that all assistance should be removed, including the feeding tube. After that, they estimate that the incredibly bright light that Sandals once shone upon this world... will slowly, painlessly, burn out for good within approximately 56 hours.

Sandals is a twin to Runners; their older brother, Nike, & the twins are best friends with our son, Boot. Runners & Boot have been sitting at Sandals' bedside for the last 2 days, silently communicating their love & their persistent hope for a miracle. 
Nike, Mr Shoes & I, and all other family members who have been able, have traveled to SK to remind Sandals of our love for him, & to lend support to his parents in this time of terrible sadness. 

Despite all our sorrows, the world goes on, as it always does. Plants continue to bloom in my gardens; though only the carrots, beets, peppers, & celery are still growing in the vegetable beds. 
"Adversity is the first path to truth."  ~ Lord Byron


"Let me embrace thee, sour adversity, for wise men say it is the wisest course."  ~William Shakespeare
    "Fire is the test of gold; adversity, of strong men."
  ~Martha Graham
Sandals' parents are of very humble means; being in SK since the 
accident has already strained their finances past their limits.
 ~ A gofundme is in place for any who may feel moved to help ~ 
Any & all donations will be applied to Sandals' upcoming expenses. 

16 comments:

  1. Oh that is sad. I hate stories like this where it could have been avoided. Sorry to hear

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    1. Thank you Crystal. It's a time of anguish for the family that will continue for a while yet, whatever the eventual outcome.

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  2. Just such a tragedy. Just broke my heart reading it. I'm praying with the boys for that miracle. Also praying for all the family.

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    1. Many Thanks Vickie - the larger the prayer circle the better.

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  3. So sad to hear about this. It's always so hard to deal with a tragedy like this. Prayers for the family and crossed fingers for a miracle.

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    1. We can't help hoping, even though the doctors say no.

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  4. I am so sorry that you and your family are going through such a senseless tragedy.

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    1. Thank you Teresa; it's tough. I worry most about Sandals' parents & siblings, and how I can possibly be of comfort to them.

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  5. Please accept my sympathy. It's unfathomable how one split second of inattention can destroy lives.

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  6. This breaks my heart for you and your family. The world continues to go on, but sometimes you wish it wouldn't or, at least, it shouldn't. He was so young. It does seem senseless, and yet, it happened anyway. Please extend my deepest sympathy to his parents.

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    1. He is only 23. They haven't yet removed support, but it does still feel as though the clock has been set.

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  7. Dear Mrs Shoes, going through this with my father and sister it belongs to the saddest things. Parents shouldn't bury their children, it breaks their heart and time will not heal it. Sometimes the world is too cruel.

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    1. Your words are absolutely true Sabine; there are some things that time cannot heal, we must only learn to bear them.

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  8. So sorry, Mrs Shoes. So tragic. Parents never really get over the loss of a child, they just get through it.

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    1. I do agree, though loss is one thing and coma for who knows how long? (43 days & counting now) seems even harder to bear. Sitting at his bedside is heart-breaking.

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